Let's Define "Sweet Spot"
In my last article, I spoke extensively of life's "sweet spot." So, let's define it. To me, the sweet spot within myself is when my thoughts and my feelings are in complete harmony and partnering for my highest good. This is a gift from God — the ability to come into this sweet spot and create that which is my highest good.
We lose connection with this sweet spot because we don’t have the awareness when we’re small to say no to the influences of those around us. Consequently, we condition ourselves to look for answers in the world. Of course, the answer to finding that sweet spot, that harmony between our thoughts and feelings which makes us feel whole, can’t be found in the world. This starts a vicious cycle for most people. They hustle to find the “right” relationship or the “right” job, and for a little while, they think they’ve found it. But the world can never bring their mind and heart together. So, they drop that relationship or that job and hustle to find another.
It’s a glorious moment when a person recognizes they need to look within if they are going to find the right relationship or job because it’s only when we create harmony within our thoughts and feelings that we succeed in finding those things we seek in the outer. In other words, we must take responsibility for the change necessary to fulfill our desires.
Why Bother?
Why should we bother to find this sweet spot? Because following the path where we look for our answers out in the world prevents us from expressing ourselves fully. As Teilhard said, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” When we fall victim to our conditioning, we operate without full awareness of what we do or how we feel about what we do. We mimic those around us and live our lives through all the roles we’ve taken on during our lifetime to fulfill our needs. If we continue to do this, we have turned everything on its head — we have become human beings trying to have a spiritual experience.
Every experience in your life and mine is the result of harmonizing vibrations. Whatever state of mind you possess, whatever level of harmony or disharmony you possess, determines the kinds of experiences you draw to yourself. If you recognize this, you can see why it is so important for you to seek this sweet spot within yourself. It is what generates the quality of your world.
Creating Balance Within
So why is it so hard to create this balance within us, this sweet spot? For one thing, we fail to recognize the consequences of mimicking others and embracing their attitudes as our own. We fail to see the buffers that come into being because we don’t want to see how absolutely ridiculous some of our beliefs about ourselves and the world are. We fail to see that we have turned over the control of our experiences to all those “false personalities” within us that we’ve created for dealing with different situations in our lives so we can feel more comfortable.
Until we accept that the experiences we have — the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly — are all there for a purpose, we will never be able to connect with this sweet spot within ourselves. Being born into this earth is not about having a place to live. Earth is a giant classroom. The teachers are not flesh and blood. The teachers are experiences.
We can tell how well we are learning the lessons by the discomfort we feel and how often we return to the same experiences time after time. I shuddered at the idea that anything less than success was my own fault and that it was a waste of time to blame life, other people, or my past experiences. However, accepting responsibility for your own experiences is a condition you must face if you are interested in personal change. It takes an extremely brave soul to say, “I am responsible for the conditions in which I live.” It’s much easier to play the blame game.
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